66 Self-Reflection Questions to Know Yourself Better

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Self-Reflection Questions

Do you really know who you are?

…Where you’re going?

And is this where you’ve envisioned yourself at this point in your life?

These are some of the questions you probably be asking yourself every now and then.

But don’t.

Instead, you muddle through the 50,000 or so thoughts every human has each day. Many of them negative.

And nearly all of them about the day before.

These introspective questions are vital for growth because they

  • Help you assess where you are
  • Guide you to becoming the person you want to be

As such, these self-reflection questions lead you down a path of self-discovery. All of which help you better understand what you should be doing 3, 6 or 12 months from now.

So, if you find yourself lost, unsure of what to do next or just want to better understand yourself, take some time to answer these questions truthfully.

They’ll help you understand yourself, what you’re doing with your life, and people your love. Your answers will allow you to:

  • Enhance the traits and habits you already have that will help you become the person you want to be
  • Modify other behaviors that hinder your progress
  • Make amends or go back and fix relationships and situations that you regret

Questions About Yourself

Let’s begin with yourself. These questions revolved around YOU.

They’ll help you understand who you are, your likes, dislikes and values in life. Also, they’ll allow you to asses whether you’re becoming or have become the person you envisioned yourself to be, ie. the IDEAL YOU.

Use the questions below to get a quick glimpse of who you are. From there, you’ll be able to decide whether you’re on the right path towards becoming you you want to be.

And, decide which aspects of yourself you want to modify to make yourself better.

  1. Who am I?
  2. What are you most passionate about?
  3. How would you describe yourself?
  4. Do you like yourself/who you are?
  5. Who are the most important people in your life?
  6. What are the things you can’t live without?
  7. What are you most grateful for?
  8. What are your biggest regrets?
  9. Is there anything you’re taking for granted?
  10. What are the biggest life lessons you’ve learned?
  11. What important lessons did you wish you learned earlier in life?
  12. Is there anything that you want to let go of but can’t seem to do so?
  13. Do you worry about the future? If so, about what?
  14. How do you want others to remember you?

Question on Your Growth as a Person

Question on Your Growth

From where you are, it’s time to see what you’re doing or can do to become the best version of yourself.

That’s what growth is all about.

While these questions aren’t going to transform you to your ideal self overnight, they’ll help you understand what to focus on in the next 12 months to 5 years.

  1. What do you want to change about yourself? Why?
  2. What are your biggest priorities in life right now?
  3. Are you putting some parts of your life on hold? Why?
  4. What are you afraid of most?
  5. Do to avoid trying things because you’re not sure of the outcome?
  6. What’s worse: Trying and failing or Not trying at all?
  7. When you’re alone and not doing anything, what thoughts enter your mind?
  8. How much do you care about what others think of you?
  9. Do you worry about things you can’t control?
  10. If you had more money than you’d need in this lifetime, what would you use it for/do with it?

Your Goals

Your Goals

Because our society puts a lot of value on success, merit and standing, goals have become a big part of life.

They help put things in perspective. And, give life meaning.

Answer the questions below to better understand your achievements (so far). And what other things you would still want to do in life.

They’ll also help you set goals for the next few month, year and more.

  1. What achievements are you most proud of?
  2. What have you done that you’re most ashamed of (wish you could take back)?
  3. If money wasn’t an object, what would you be doing with your life?
  4. If you had only 1 day left to live, what would you do?
  5. If you had just 1 year left to live, what would you do?
  6. Who is your ideal self? Describe your ideal self in full detail.
  7. If you could go back to your 13 year old self, what advice would you give yourself?
  8. If you could go back to being 16 years old, would you live your life differently? If so, how?
  9. What are you currently doing/trying to become?
  10. What are you doing to get where you want to be?
  11. Is this the life you thought you’d be living?
  12. What are your biggest dreams?
  13. Are you pursuing your dreams? If not, why aren’t you?
  14. How do you measure your progress/if you’re making progress?

Things to Ask Yourself About Your Work/Career

Work and CareerYour work and career are very closely related to many of your goals. But, they’re only a subset of your goals.

After all, you likely have other goals besides those involving your job or business.

In this section, the self-reflection turns towards what you do for a living.

Are you doing what you like for a living, or if not why not? And, how much of your life does work take up.

By answering these questions, you’ll be able to decide what you want to do next. And, if you need to make any adjustments in your work life.

  1. Do you enjoy what you do for a living?
  2. Do you work to live or live to work?
  3. What are you doing to get to the work/job/career you want to be doing?
  4. How much of a work-life balance do you have?
  5. How much of life do you/are you willing to sacrifice to achieve your career goals?
  6. Did you hit any work/career milestones this year? Do you set any each year?
  7. What do you do to go over and above your “job description”?
  8. How can you improve your work ethic, productivity, etc.?

Relationship Questions


As human beings, we thrive on relationships. Without them, we struggle.

As such, take your time to answer the questions in this section. For many people, they’re harder than many of the others because they’re more personal. And, your emotions are involved.

But, reflecting on they will help you discover more about your relationships, be it your partner, loved ones, friends and relatives. The goal of which is to improve the quality of your relationships with them.

  1. How important are relationships for you?
  2. How many real friends do you have? People you’ll trust with your life. Or, those you know will “step up” when SHTF.
  3. How do you show your appreciation and gratitude to your friends?
  4. Are your friendships “2-way streets”? Or, do you give more than your receive or vice versa?
  5. Who are the 3 people you spend the most time with?
  6. Do they help you get to where you want to be or do they hold you back?
  7. Who are the toxic people in your life? If any.
  8. What are you doing to deal with them/what do you want to do with that relationship?
  9. Who are the people you haven’t spent enough time with?
  10. Are there any relationships you’ve left behind you wished you hadn’t? If so, are you doing anything about it?
  11. How do you make your current meaningful relationships better?

Your Day to Day Life

Your Day to Day Life

This last section allows you to self-reflect on yourself and how you go about your day to day life.

While they aren’t as deep as the previous section, they still allow you to do some self-exploration.

This time to see if what your daily motivations are. And, whether you put any intentions and thoughts to the things you do on a daily basis.

  1. What do you do keep yourself healthy?
  2. Are you happy with the way you look?
  3. What are you doing to get to the way you want to look?
  4. What good habits are you proud of?
  5. What are the bad habits you want to break?
  6. What new habits do you want to develop?
  7. What makes you want to get up in the morning?
  8. How easily/soon do you lose motivation?
  9. What are the things that make you lose motivation? How do you remedy them?


For the uninitiated, self-assessment and self-exploration may seem like a waste of time.

But, that’s hardly the case, especially if you know what you’re doing.

In fact, regular self-reflection provides a sort of “checks and balances” in order to keep you on the right track.

Doing so, lets you make adjustments sooner rather that later, allowing you to waste less time getting to your goals and becoming the person you want to be.

What do you do to reflect on yourself? Let me know in the comments below.

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