What are the bad habits you need to stop?
You probably know some.
And, are aware of others.
But aren’t sure that you’re guilty of a few more.
That said, it’s time to break these bad habits so you can become the best version of yourself.
First, it’s important to identity these behaviors.
The list below contains 23 common bad habits that everyone needs to get rid of to succeed.
See which ones you have and how you can fix them.
Stop Being Busy For the Sake of Of It
Being busy doesn’t mean you’re productive.
If you always find yourself not running out of things to do, it may be time to stop and take stock.
Doing too many things is often a sign that you may be focusing on the small tasks and not prioritizing the important ones.
By taking a short pause to assess your where you are and what your goals are, you might realize you’re spending way too much time doing too many things that don’t contribute to your bottom line.
Instead, use the 80/20 rule when choosing which tasks to focus on.
That is find the 20% of all your tasks that deliver 80% of your results. Those are the ones you focus on.
Having a Fixed Mindset
According to Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, having a fixed mindset keeps you from achieving your full potential.
So, it’s a good idea to get rid of this type of thinking and adopt a growth mindset instead.
- Fixed mindset – is when you believe that the traits you’re born with are what define you. As such, your talents and intelligence are fixed. So, you’re either good at something or you’re not.
- Growth mindset – is the belief that nothing is set in stone. That is, your intelligence, skill and abilities are all constantly changing. By trying, failing and learning, you’re able to grow and get better. As such, challenges, new things and even failure are all opportunities to grow.
The question is, do you have a fixed or growth mindset.
Here’s a quick quiz.
- Do you stick to things you know and avoid discomfort?
- Do you challenge yourself even if it risks failure or embarrassment?
- When you fail or get frustrated, do you give up?
- Do you take criticism personally?
If you answered yes to these, then you might want to adjust your fixed mindset.
Comparing Yourself to Other People
By nature, we like comparing ourselves to others.
In part because you’ve gotten used to it always being that way.
- You were compared to your classmates in school
- Your boss compared you to your co-workers during evaluations
- Heck, even your parents compared you to your siblings and cousins
- Now, social media makes you compare yourself to influencers and other people who “always” seem to be extremely happy and successful
Whatever the cause, it’s time to break this habit.
That’s because the only person you need to compare yourself is you.
- Compare yourself to you a few years ago.
- And, compare yourself to the person you want to be.
Doing so allows you to see if you’re growing as a person (from who you used to be).
And, what you need to do to become the person you want to be (your dream life).
Being Jealous Of Other Peoples’ Success
We’ve all been in this situation.
You’ve been jealous of other bloggers or people who are more successful that you are.
Thanks to social media, you now have more people to be envious of, be it the people who always look happy or those who take seemingly never-ending vacations.
Whether it’s money, relationships or success, being jealous doesn’t do you any good.
It doesn’t improve your life.
Worse, it wastes your time. And makes you feel bad about you or where you are.
Being Afraid (of Change, What You Don’t Know and Failure)
Fear is a natural human emotion.
It lets us know that something is important. Or, that there’s a potential impending threat or danger coming.
Unfortunately, on the flip side, fear also keeps us from doing things.
- The fear of change
- Fear of not knowing or the unexpected
- And fear of failure
All three put us out of our comfort zones. When that happens, you hesitate or avoid that thing altogether.
So, it’s important to change your relationship and perspective of these fears.
- Change is an opportunity for growth
- Things you don’t know are a chance to expand you knowledge
- Failure lets you learn new lessons. As such, its just another step to success
Once you get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you’ll be able to get past the obstacles that have been hindering your growth.
Waiting for the “Perfect Time”
There’s no such thing as the “perfect time”.
So, you may end up waiting your entire lifetime with nothing to show for it.
That’s why it’s important NOT TO WAIT for your situation to change!
Instead, instigate the change.
By taking action, you’re putting your own life in your hands. And not waiting for destiny to come save you.
Caring What Other People Think
Caring too much about what other people think makes you live your life trying to please others.
If you do so, you might end up living your life based on what you think they want you to do and be.
That’s something you’ll regret. And even resent.
- Are you doing things because it’s expected of you or because you want to do them?
- Are you following a path or acting because you want to get someone else’s approval, instead of being yourself?
If either is true, it’s time to stop this habit and assess who you are and what you want to do.
Thinking That Everything is About You
If you think people spend a lot of time thinking about you, laughing at you, conspiring against you or doing things behind your back, you’re wrong.
People don’t care about you…
Well, they do. But, nowhere near to caring about themselves.
As such, they spend 90% of their day thinking about themselves, just as you and I do about ourselves.
That’s just how we’re wired.
So don’t worry too much about what other people are thinking or doing, because it has nothing to do with you.
Instead, focus on your own life and what you need to do.
Saying “Yes” to Everything and Everyone
Nobody likes saying “no” because it makes you look bad or disliked.
But, you need to do so in order to make time for yourself.
If you say “yes” to everything, you’ll be living your life doing what others want of you.
While that’s a very generous way to do so, the problem is, you’ll never get anything done for yourself.
And, at the end of the day, you’ll feel tired and have nothing to show for it.
Instead, learn to say “no”.
The key is to do it in a respectful, way. Not in a way where you come off as rude or uncaring.
Just as importantly, commit to it. Don’t feel guilty for saying “no”.
Otherwise, you’ll end up worry about it the rest of the day.
Multitasking or Taking Too On Too Many Things At Once
Like everyone else, you probably like to be as productive as possible.
But if you think that doing everything all at once or multitasking will help you get more done in a shorter amount of time… you’re mistaken.
Many studies have shown that multitasking hinders productivity, albeit the concept look valid.
That’s because your brain isn’t efficient at doing many things at once. So when you try working on your blog, taking care of the kids and preparing dinner all at once, you end up doing poorly in all three things.
Additionally, it’s stressful and tires you out.
Instead, focus on one thing at a time. This allows your brain to put all its energy into that one thing. That’s when it performs best.
Worrying About Things You Can’t Control
This is one I’m guilty of. And while I’ve been able to keep it at a minimum, it’s still creeps up every now and them.
What about you?
I can still remember back in school when there were big tests or projects and the grades didn’t come up until after a few days. I’d worry whether I’d pass or get enough right answers to get the grades I needed.
Looking back now, I wish I didn’t worry.
Doing so made me stress and anxious.
Yet, there was nothing I or my worrying could do anyway. I would have been way better off having fun with friends or doing something productive.
The lesson here is, don’t be like me.
Instead do something better with your time instead of worrying about things that are out of your control.
Doubting Yourself / Thinking You Don’t Have What It Takes
Self-doubt is harmful to your health and success.
At times, it may even keep your from trying.
Being unsure of things and uncertain about some situations is perfectly normal. But, making it a habit to think that you’re not good enough or always doubting yourself never helps.
Plus, it makes you feel small, stresses you out and can lead to depression.
Instead, always believe you can do it.
While that kind of confidence doesn’t guarantee success, it increases your chances of succeeding.
Just think about it…
Have you ever seen a successful person who didn’t have confidence in themselves?
I know I haven’t.
Negative thinking causes you to “play it safe”.
While that’s not a bad thing, it does prevent you from trying things you’ve always wanted to do.
More importantly, to reach the success you want to get to in life, you’ll probably need to take a few risks.
Negative thinking will keep you from doing that. Why?
Afraid to fail or get embarrassed.
As a result, you don’t even give it a try.
Dwelling on the Past
Every now and then, you may look back at your life and reminisce.
You’ll remember the good times and probably some bad moments as well.
Whichever it may be, don’t dwell on them.
Don’t spend too much time thinking about the happier days. Or, when things were going well and your relationship was better.
Similarly, don’t dwell on the bad times.
Doing so makes you lose focus of the present. And, your future goals.
Use them as a way to improve yourself.
Use your mistakes and failures to figure out what went wrong and see what you need to learn.
Also, look at the best times. From there, you’ll know what the things in life make you happiest. Those are what you focus on.
Wasting Time on Social Media
How much time do you spend on Facebook?
Probably too much, right?
Social media is good thing. It lets you get in touch with people who are on the other side of the globe.
Plus, it gives you access to an audience you otherwise wouldn’t reach.
The problem is, it’s addictive.
Five minutes stretches into half an hour. Next thing you know you’ve spent the last couple hours going through social media feeds.
While it can be fun, it can waste a lot of your time. This makes you less productive, especially when you’re on a deadline or trying to launch a blog.
Always Being Late
Always being late is a bad habit that causes other bad habits to form.
It spreads because you get used to doing it.
Being always late to events, meetings, school or work makes you think it’s okay to be late in other things, especially when you can get away with it.
Next thing you know, you’re late in submitting work or replying to urgent messages.
That reflects on you as a person.
Additionally, some people see tardiness as a sign of disrespect.
Bottom line, make it an effort to be on time or earlier.
Being Around Toxic People
According to Jim Rohn, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
So, if you spend a lot of time with toxic people, you’ll likely end up behaving like them.
This is on top of always being stressed out or down about yourself because these people are often cruel, rude and demeaning to others.
If you find yourself in this situation, get out.
That’s something you’ll thank yourself for later on.
In everything, there’s a right and wrong way to do things.
Similarly, some methods work better. Or, are more efficient.
Then, there are shortcuts.
Shortcuts are things you and I do when we try to jump from step 1 to step 5, without going through or learning steps 2, 3 and 4.
While you can get away with in the short-term. Doing so often comes back to get you later on.
That’s because you missed a few crucial “lessons” along the way, be it learning from your mistakes or gaining the proper experience.
The worst thing about taking shortcuts is they become a habit. And, they affect your work ethic.
When you get away with a shortcut, you’ll likely try it again, which eventually snowballs.
Stop Chasing Every New Shiny Object
This is something I used to do a lot as a beginner blogger.
When you see people earning thousands of dollars a month when you’re not making any money, you’ll get tempted to try “opportunity” possible.
And because marketing is a big part of blogging, it’s easy to get sucked into the sales pitches the gurus throw at you.
In the end, you end up running after new “secret” or money-making technique they hawk.
Been there, done that… It doesn’t work.
What works is finding one, maybe two, methods that suit your personality and style. Then work your butt off learning how to make it work for you.
Whining and Complaining
Are you a glass “half-full” or glass “half-empty” kind of person?
I ask because I’ve noticed that the latter seem to complain and whine more.
In contrast, optimists look on the bright side of things. That is, how they can improve or what did they miss that caused the most recently failure.
That said, complaining never helps.
If anything, it makes people avoid you. Who likes being around something who whines all the time?
I know I don’t, You probably don’t too.
So whenever you find yourself wanting to complain, think of its consequences.
- It makes you unhappy
- It wastes time. While you’re complaining you could have been taking action
- It makes people avoid you
Worse, all your complaining might even convince you that you’re not good enough or into giving up.
Setting things aside and doing them in the last minute is both stressful and draining.
I still remember all-nighters during my first few months at work when we were working 80-hour weeks. Those were not fun.
The thing was, it could have been prevented.
Our VPs and Managing Directors often give us the work later in the afternoon. That meant having to rush everything through the evening because the documents and presentations were needed the next day.
Not only were we always in a rush, we also ended up coming to work tired and sluggish the next morning.
I’m sure you’ve had some similar experience with procrastination.
It never really works out well.
Spending Too Much & Going Over Your Budget
Are you always tight on cash?
Or, are you living paycheck to paycheck?
If so, you may want to monitor how much you’re spending.
In addition, make a budget.
A budget lets you know exactly how much you can spend on a monthly basis. This allows you to allocate your funds, so you don’t overspend.
With it, you’ll be able to avoid getting into debt and the stress that comes with it.
Blaming Others for Your Situation
Do you blame others for holding you back?
If so, you need to stop right now.
That’s because you’re not taking responsibility for your own situation.
And by blaming others, you give them power over you.
Acknowledging this means that you won’t take action to fix or better yourself. That’s because it’s someone else’s fault or shortcoming.
This keeps you from being accountable. And, when you do so, you won’t learn from your mistakes, which keeps you from growing.
We all have habits. Some good, others bad.
Because they play such a big role in our lives, to the point where we do them instinctively even without thinking, it’s important to weed out the bad ones.
If you have some habits listed above, it may be time to actively break them.
Doing so will help you grow, succeed and become a happier person.