You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.
– Brian Tracy
In short, you can’t always control the things in life. But you can control how you react to them.
That’s why your mindset is essential.
Seeing the world from a glass “half-full” or “half-empty” perspective determines how you think, speak and act.
In turn, these 3 things are the biggest factors that determine whether you succeed or not in life.
In the same way, having a growth or fixed mindset affects how much you believe in yourself and your ability to get better at anything.
The good news is you have the power to define your mindset.
That’s what this article is about. How to change your mindset for success. By following the different steps below you’ll be on your way to thinking the way successful people do.
What is Mindset?
Your mindset is the set of beliefs, assumptions and attitude towards things. Together, they affect they way you think, approach things and behave.
In simple terms, your mindset sets up your frame of mind.
As such, if you have a positive mindset, you can see the good things even during bad situations.
Similarly, if you believe that you’re an entrepreneur, you’ll act like one, instead of behaving like an employee.
And, if see your as a business rather than a hobby, you’ll be willing to work, sacrifice and invest time and money on it. In contrast, you likely won’t put is as much effort if you treated your blog as a hobby.
This is why mindset is crucial for success.
How you see yourself and perceive certain things affects the way you behave.
Why Your Mindset is Important
Your mindset affects your confidence, how much effort you put, your willingness to sacrifice for something and many other things.
But, the biggest role it takes is to help you during setbacks and challenges.
These are the times when you:
- Can’t seem to solve a problem
- Don’t want to keep going after failing so many times
- Are tired and don’t know what to do next
- And many other enduring times
The right mindset will make you get back up. Dust yourself off. And, try again.
The wrong mindset will make you believe you’re not good enough. Feel like things will never get better. And, eventually make you decide to quit.
If you don’t believe me, just take it from Nick Vujicic. He’s a motivational speaker who has tetra-amelia syndrome, a congenital disorder where you don’t have arms and legs.
But guess what, he’s never let that stop him from living life.
In fact, he’s probably done more things in his life that you and I combined.
What’s his secret?
That’s why mindset is crucial for both happiness and success. The two things everyone wants most in life besides good health.
Reasons Why Having the Right Mindset is Important
Here are the top reasons why the right mindset is essential.
- Helps you overcome adversity. When things go wrong or you keep failing, do you keep getting up or always think of quitting. Your mindset determines how bad you want something and to what lengths you’re willing to go to get it.
- Develops self-confidence and self-esteem. Do you or don’t you believe in yourself. And, do you see yourself as a winner or not. Your mindset determines how you see yourself, ie. Your self-worth, whether it’s positive or negative.
- Motivates and drives you. It helps you get up every morning and be ready to work. Just remember the last time you were excited to go on a trip. In contrast, getting up for work or school can feel more like chore.
- Helps you achieve your goals. This is most prevalent in sports, especially at the professional level. There, everyone is so well-trained and prepared physically. But what separates champions from the rest is their mindset.
- It forms your perspective. Your mindset is what formulates your attitude. For example, in school. If you care about a particular subject, you’ll listen and take notes. If you aren’t interest in a class, you’ll goof off or be on your phone the entire time.
- Mental strength and resilience. When you’re tired and can’t feel you can’t go any further, your mindset is what makes you keep going. Because, you believe in what you’re working towards.
Ways to Change Your Mindset for Success
So how can you change your mindset in order to help you succeed?
Here are some things that will help you modify the way you think about yourself and others that will help you get there.
Assess Your Current Mindset and Beliefs
Taking a long look at your current beliefs is one of the best places to start.
To do so,
- Start by making a list of the different things you believe in. This includes things you believe about yourself, how you do things, your abilities, talents, relationships and so on.
- For each belief, assess whether they support you in becoming the person you want to be. Or, are they self-limiting.
- For those that fall under the first category (supportive beliefs) find ways to enhance them. For the latter (self-limiting beliefs), note them down to remind yourself not to keep doing them. And, find a way to start forming a new habit that alters that belief to make it help you instead of hindering you.
Focus on Positive Self-Talk
Take a second to go back to the last time you were faced with a challenge. Ideally, something you weren’t sure you could handle or achieve successfully.
Now try to remember what you said to yourself before attempting that challenging task.
- “I don’t know how I’m going to do this“ or “I can’t make this work”
- “You got this!” or “You can do this!”
If it was the first, then it’s time to change.
The way you “talk to yourself” reflects your beliefs and mindset. And, as the saying goes, “if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will.”
That’s why practicing positive self-talk helps. It gives you a positive outlook. And by thinking you can do it, you stand a better chance of succeeding.
Talk More from a “Glass Half-Full” Perspective
What do you notice more when you talk to people? Is it the good or the bad?
When things happen, do you see the bad or the good? And do you complain a lot?
Be Around People Who are More Positive
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. This now famous quote by Jim Rohn is the reason you find yourself behaving like the people you hang out with all the time.
In part it may be peer pressure. It can also be osmosis, where you take on some of their traits.
The important thing is that, choosing the right people makes a huge difference.
- Surrounding yourself with the right people reinforced the right kind of mindset that will help you get to where you want to be.
- But, staying with the wrong crowd also instills a different kind of mindset that could be opposite to who you want to be.
This works both on- and offline. So you need to assess your friendships in real life as well as social media.
Fight Your Instinctive Thoughts
This is something I’m guilty of.
Every now and then, my old negative beliefs pop up. When they do so, I start whining or complaining about even the most trivial stuff.
The problem is, they mess up my day.
If you experience the same thing every now and then, it’s important to be notice it quickly and put a stop to it. You can likewise choose to ignore those thoughts.
Because they’re somewhat ingrained in you, some going as far back to when you were a child, it’s not always easy to let go.
But, fight the urge and challenge these old or existing thoughts so you can you replace them with something better.
Be Open and Flexible to New Ideas
One way to improve your mindset is to be open to new ideas. This allows you to enhance what you already believe. And, at times, challenge your current beliefs.
By being open to other perspectives, you’re able to see things that you weren’t aware of before.
Some will be good. Others will be bad.
Your job is to filter out the bad and keep the good. This allows your attitude towards things and your overall mindset to improve.
Watch and Read More Positive Things
This is very similar to surrounding yourself with the right people. But here, it’s what you decide to read or watch.
Exposing yourself to positive things as well as media that will help you grow as a person allows your mind to grow with it.
As a result, it influences the way you speak, talk to yourself, view yourself and act. Over time, these little things develop into habits as you keep using them more and more
Take Time Out to Mediate Daily
Meditation is one of the most effective ways of strengthening your mind (and brain). In fact, fMRI studies have shown that long-time yogis have brain structures that are significantly different from the normal human being.
And that’s a good thing!
It makes them more resilient to stress, allows them to think straight and be calmer.
In addition to that, it also improves your mindset. That’s because regular meditation helps regulate your emotions. It also boosts learning, memory and cognition.
Altogether, they help you develop the right mindset that will allow you to succeed.
Volunteer or Help Others Expecting Nothing in Return
Let’s face it, we live in a world where nobody does things for free.
When they do, there’s always an ulterior motive.
That’s why volunteering and altruism are so special.
They’re unique in that you give and expect nothing in return. Yet, you actually receive more than you give.
Just as importantly, by helping others this way, you get used to focusing on others. More specifically, making their lives better in some way.
Increase Your Awareness By Noticing the Good in Things and People
Take a moment to think back on the most memorable moments in your life. Or, the ones that you remember every now and them.
Odds are, they’re negative events.
For some reason, we tend to remember the bad memories more than the good. Scientists aren’t sure but they believe it has something to do with evolution.
This means you’re more prone to be reminded on negative things as opposed to positive things.
One way to combat that way of thinking is to retrain your brain, staring with baby steps.
- For the next 2 months, notice 3-5 positive things that happened each day.
- If you want, you can note them down on a notebook. That makes it easier to look back on the week or month.
Doing this for a prolonged period of time will help you see more of the positive things happening around you.
Avoid Negative Media
Tune out “bad news”. Unfortunately, this also means filtering out the daily news to a large extent.
That’s because newspapers and other media outlets know that negative news sells better than positive ones. It’s just human nature.
The thing is, listening to bad things all day dampens your day. Even worse, it gets drilled into your subconscious without you even noticing it.
That’s why you sometimes feel down after listening to “bad news” even if it has nothing to do with you whatsoever.
Make a List of Cues and Reminders
Once you’re aware of your mindset and beliefs, it’s time to take action.
The best way to get there is to form habits that will allow you to modify or reinforce certain ways of thinking.
But to get there, you’ll need to start somewhere. That’s where reminders come in.
Little sticky notes or cues on your phone go a long way in keeping you on track.
Ideally, you want to place these reminders in locations that you visit/see more than once a day. Doing so helps you commit them to memory and habit faster.
How you feel directly affects how you think.
And the best way to feel good physically and mentally is to live a healthy lifestyle.
Getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly give you the energy to get things do. They also help you focus and concentrate.
Altogether, you’re better able to achieve your goals.
In contrast, lack of sleep, poor diet and a sedentary lifestyle makes you feel sluggish. And, you’ll likely be tired more often than not.
This makes you see things in a more negative light.
Form New Habits the Reinforce/Help You Change to a Positive Mindset
Habits make it easy for you to incorporate things into your lifestyle. To the point where you don’t even have to think about them.
This is why they’re a powerful tool in helping you:
- Change a particular mindset you have
- Reinforce you current way of thinking
The trick is to figure out what mindset you want to change or reinforce. Then, decide on what triggers, actions and rewards you can put in place that will help you apply it.
Say “Thank You” more.
And, express your gratitude towards someone or something.
These are two very simple, yet effective ways to practicing gratitude.
What’s interesting about it is that you, the giver, actually gets more than the receiver does. Even if it looks like the other way around on the onset.
That’s because being grateful is empowering. It makes you feel better about yourself. And, it helps build connections and relationships as well.
As a bonus, studies have shown that showing gratitude makes you a happier person.
Start the Morning with a Positive Mindset Routine
How you start your mornings often affects the rest of the day.
When you wake up “on the wrong side of the bed”, you’ll feel grouchy for the next few hours. And, this may extend throughout the day.
In contrast, starting the day on a positive note gets you motivated and excited for the things to come.
How can you do it?
- Use positive affirmations
- Listen to personal growth podcasts
- Enjoy some uplifting audio books
End Each Day By Listing Down the Positive Things That Happened
It’s always good to end the day on a good note. You can do so by taking stock on the positive things that happened.
You can use a small journal or even just list things down on a piece of paper. Although, I like the journal better because you can always go back and see all the good things that have happened to you in the last week, month or even year.
Of course, you can also keep track of your failures and mistakes. But, only do so for learning purposes. This makes them positive.
If you dwell on them, the become a stumbling block that can make you believe that you’ll keep failing
Our mindset affects how we think and behave. And for the most part, these thoughts have developed and evolved over many years.
The good news is, they’re not fixed.
This gives you the ability to strengthen those that support who you want to become and modify or replace those that hold you back.
The list above includes effective ways you can use to change your current mindset and gear it towards success.
What about you? What mindset do you want to change? Let me know below in the comments.